最近更新时间：2019年1月15日
作者：addictions.com医学评论
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We all like to be the hero of our own stories. We want to get the guy or girl of our dreams, win the career of our choice, and excel in our personal and professional lives. When we can’t do that, it isn’t uncommon to start feeling like a failure. If we feel we have failed badly enough, we may begin to see ourselves as the villain of the story.
如果你的配偶正在争夺成瘾and it doesn’t look like they are winning, you aren’t a failure and you aren’t the villain. It is all too common to take the blame for addiction, especially in a marriage. Perhaps, if you didn’t fight as much? Maybe, if you went on more dates? Possibly, if there was less pressure to succeed? But, it isn’t your fault, even if you feel like it and your spouse sometimes says it is.
责备没有帮助治愈成瘾，它通常可以隐藏有助于并由药物滥用和/或上瘾行为产生的真正问题。如果你的配偶是瘾君子的第一件事就是停止责备游戏。及时，您和您的配偶将开始对您的关系和成瘾的不同部位承担个人责任，但它将努力实现这一点。当您准备好的工作时，重要的是，您可以找到为您的配偶和婚姻作出的治疗设施。
Treatment
家庭治疗将有助于恢复婚姻。
众多的治疗方案和不同的成瘾者和不同的成瘾需要不同类型的治疗。您应该寻找适合您配偶性别，年龄，文化，种族和成瘾的治疗计划。您能够通过康复计划匹配您的配偶需求越好，有成功的越大。
家庭治疗
An important component of the rehab process will be family therapy. You will need to re-develop bonds of trust and relearn your relationship.
这物质滥用和心理健康服务管理局提醒我们：“几乎所有年轻的情侣在关系的第一个十年内遇到通信和亲密问题。在酗酒的婚姻或关系中，这些问题定期被视为内疚，责任，控制问题加剧了上瘾疾病的性质及其对关系和家庭的影响。“
Family therapy is extremely relevant to substance abuse and behavioral disorder treatment and will improve marital communication and both partner’s capacity for intimacy. This personal growth will enable you to continue in your marriage, even after the difficulties of addiction and treatment.
支持
你的瘾君子需要强大的支持网络，通过参加家庭治疗并通过治疗支持它们，您可以作为清醒的稳定，充满爱心的基础。但是，你需要的支持呢？
如果你保持你的斗争secret, you won’t get help from family and friends. You know best whether or not you should tell them and whether or not they will support you, so informing them should be done at your discretion and in the way you know it will be best received.
如果您无法让自己通知家人和朋友或您想要额外的支持，请寻求独立的支持小组。例如，Al Anon会议专门用于朋友和酗酒者和NAR Anon为朋友和家人的吸毒成员提供相同的支持。此外，全国各地提供了许多小组。如果您生活在一个非常小的社区，有限的产品或遭受焦虑，请使这些群体不受欢迎，您也可以在线加入支持集团。